It is sometimes the case we think that men and women are born lucky or with a champion mindset.
In my opinion however despite the fact that genetics might have a small role to play, finding out how to win is simply a mind set.
There exists a saying that you can’t stop a loser from losing and you can’t stop a winner from winning. I’d say it is fairly accurate.
There are many people who I have delivered online coaching to that will listen, make notes, seek advice, participate in debates yet because of a quitting mindset, they fail to act on any of the information that’s delivered to them.
This is simply not at all unusual. If it were, there would not be a profession for keynote speakers. Again and again people come back to the same conventions and seminars to get somebody make them feel good when winning and succeeding has little to do with feeling good.
The individual that wants to feel good, the individual who has a champion mindset, will do so despite the pain, discomfort and feelings in the process. Going to the gym is a prime example for many people. If we were honest we would admit that we don’t like going to the gym. I know I personally dislike running. What I do like is the effects of running. The reality that I shed pounds, feel healthier and can run faster all lead me to want to continue running.
Life is no different and business is no different. We wish to succeed nevertheless in many instances we don’t wish to take the good with the bad.
I would absolutely propose that the bad is what makes the good – “good”. Flowers don’t grow in the desert where the sun shines but the rain never comes. We need the good days to provide contrast for the bad.
So what it take in my mind to win, is to have a commitment to a system. We need to remove the notion that success happens overnight, it does not. The most important step in success may in fact be the last one. The one when we have already climbed several false summits believing the next one is the real one. The step we take to speak to one more investor after several refusals. The one more time we get up to run again and rounding a corner to see the finish line. These are the steps that define success from failure.
Today there is a proliferation of protectionism with our children. There is a strong desire to protect them from losing. The truth is if we never have the option to lose, we never experience the joy of succeeding.
It is a cruel juxtaposition that we are in. The pain of knowing we might lose if we try compared to the relative comfort we have of never trying.
I think if we polled people who were on their final few weeks of life and asked what they would have wished more in their lives, it would have been to accomplish more, to try harder, to have lived more courageously. I don’t believe you would find a person with an adventurous spirit saying they wished they had spent more time in their LayZ Boy recliner watching TV.
If you want to develop a winning mindset, trying yourself not to quit.